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Control: Good vs Bad


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Good control is self care and aids emotional growth. It oozes from a ballerina or a pilot when landing a plane. It’s knowing when to cut your losses, learning when to keep quiet, not falling into the temptation trap, turning down the oven to avoid burning the chicken or Spanx.

Bad control is not knowing when or how but saying you do anyway. It’s an anger feeder and an ego eater. It promotes loneliness and is born mostly from narcissism, insecurity and fear of losing the plot. Perhaps the pungent smell of threat lingers in the air and the one thing you yearn for most is out of your reach, slipping through your fingers but still, you keep hanging on in there even when your spent.

Learn the difference. It could be the making of you.

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Why should you lower your expectations? #business


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You Spend a lifetime feeling your way through this obstacle called life, following dreams, interesting people and creating opportunities for yourself that meet your own expectations, all whilst trying to look more confident than u actually feel right?
And what’s to stop you? How on earth would you achieve otherwise?

What are your current expectations for yourself, your business? It is always good practice to write these down and then ask yourself if they realistic. If you can’t tell whether you are barking up the wrong tree or running up a mountain in flip flops, ask someone that you really trust to give you a straight and honest answer. If their answer is ‘Go for it!’, don’t lower your expectations for toffee.

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Listening Is Not Overrated.


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Do you think you are a good listener? Do you listen with an open mind or with your own opinion safely tucked away? Do you listen more than you talk? Be honest.

If you have answered ‘No’ to any of these questions, you could be dangerously close to a judgemental label plus, this could be holding you back professionally.

When a client is talking to you, practice good listening. Be in the moment. Be present. Absorb what they are saying. Look into their eyes, don’t compare their experiences to your own, avoid the words ‘I’ or ‘Me too’ and wait to be asked a question before jumping in there with answers. If they require help, they will ask right?

If you have listened to everything they have said, really listened, you will be able to provide the service they require, but more importantly, then and only then, you will be able to see if the person in front of you is the genuine article.